Those are the struggles that typical Lealah goes through. Here lately though, I'm trying to not be so typical. I'm trying to not worry about every little thing and stress over stuff outside of my control. I'm actually making progress... hopefully. I'm trying a different tactic, instead of obsessing over and controlling one facet of my life, I'm lessening the choke-hold and spreading attention to where it's actually needed. This helps me to not entertain those obsessions and allows me to practice more control overall. Once I get in an obsessive mindset, I find myself over analyzing every little thing in my life.
For example, typical Lealah would drop and change everything to spend hours at the gym, doing only the workouts where I would see immediate results, eating <1100 calories a day... the list goes on. The difference now is that I'm actually self-aware enough to know that is not what I need just yet. Not only is my body sending me signals by letting me know that I'm tired, but I realize that I'm currently in a place in my life where I need to tend to myself in other ways.
The past couple months, I've been active nearly every day. I try to walk, do yoga, or both daily. I've missed a handful of days probably. I'd have much better/quicker results doing Body Pump, Zumba, and running, but I'm not willing to sacrifice my yoga, writing, or meditation time to spend hours at the gym right now. Not to mention the various hobbies I dip into from time to time. I realize that I've ignored myself emotionally and spiritually for many years. It's time to make permanent change - losing a bunch of weight won't change me permanently, it didn't before. It definitely helps, having a little confidence and self-esteem changed many aspects of my life. But now it's time to grow past that even. I'll be glad to get back to a smaller size, but that isn't the end goal. The end goal is to be happier and healthier overall. It is happening. I notice change here and there that remind me of thin Lealah and give me deja vu of the weight loss process. I drink green smoothies 5-6 times a week for breakfast or brunch, I've been drinking probiotics either in Karma water or kombucha daily, and I'm not doing nearly as poorly as I had been at other meals. I've also been trying to drink more water and stay hydrated. I feel better overall, but I cannot seem to get past being tired the majority of the time.
|Breakfast of champions!|
|Zen room at the place I float at.|
I take long walks by the lake, do yoga, meditate, write, listen to music, go floating... read. I went to the doctor the other day for the first time in over 2 years, and I even went to the optometrist! Apparently my eyesight has gotten better and I bought new contacts, so I'd consider it a successful visit. I never stopped going to the dentist because I had braces on when my brother passed, and I guess spending that kind of money on my mouth motivated me to maintain basic dental hygiene. I'm still going to the chiropractor, trying to get my spine to cooperate. These are the kinds of things that I mean by tending to myself. Valuing myself enough to do basic maintenance and to enjoy my hobbies.
|Bella takes me for walks.|
I'm also attempting to challenge myself by getting out of my bubble. So, I may as well clarify in case there were readers wondering due to my vagueness on the topic - I am indeed single now. Our lives were just going in separate directions. With that said, I have really stepped outside my comfort zone by starting to date for the first time in a really long time. I started off really awkward, but I believe I'm starting to get the hang of it. I'm not sure I care for it, to be honest. I'm not looking for a serious relationship right now anyways, but I thought it would be interesting to put myself out there a bit and see if someone cool came along. Really, sometimes it's just nice to meet someone new. I've got way too much on my plate to make someone else my life right now. From what I've seen, it's hard to find someone that will chill and let you be chill with no BS. Cool people do exist, though, it is indeed a strange new world.
I've been meeting new people aside from the dating scene, too. The weekend before last I went to a spiritual self-help type session at a bookstore in Tulsa where I met some new people that seem to be more on my wavelength. Then I went to a fair here in OKC last weekend about similar topics and met more new people. I'm actually going to Tulsa this weekend for a session involving someone I met in OKC. It's exciting meeting people that you can talk to about topics that most people aren't interested in. Contrarily, I'm learning to really enjoy my alone time, too. When I went to Tulsa, I made a day of it and had a fabulous trip: I blasted my music there and back; did my own thing, in my own time at the bookstore; grabbed dinner at my favorite Tulsa restaurant; enjoyed a quiet, peaceful meal while I took my time and got some really good writing in; and then stopped at Starship Records and browsed for the perfect amount of time for me. Starship is this really cool novelty shop that has all sorts of neat stuff. My bounty for the trip was some very lovely incense and this sweet poster:
|Find me in Wonderland bitches!|
|Win from my last Tulsa trip.|